My late mother advised us all the time to speak gentle and with kind words as it has a lot more power ( 轻声讲重话)! That was when I was very young. She never went to school, cannot read a word but deeply religious. What she said was so true as I search the bible to support her wise words.
Just to share with my readers this morning the wise teaching of proverb:
The heart of the wise makes his speech judicious and adds persuasiveness to his lips. Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body. Proverbs 16:23-24 ESV
Click here and you will be amazed to all the wise words. I hope it will spur you to be more gracious with your words.
What prompted me to write this entry is due to a comment by one of my valued readers. That person started off with "You idiot". I met lots of people (teachers, customers, friends, bosses, students) who swear and speak unkind words all the time. But why people said such unkind words? I believe I can summarised some of them here from all my observations:
1. Bad mood
2. Bad parental role model - monkey see monkey do!
3. Pride - especially with bosses.
4. Unseen and virtual, ie, internet. You will noticed a lot of these on the social network.
5. Bad teaching and bad influence
6. Attention seeker
7. Speak before thinking
8. Emptiness in the heart
So, can we all learn how to speak kind words to each other so that it can build each other up!
Just remember that words badly spoken brought countries to wars and even death to individual. Read this good article here.
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. Ephesians 4:29 ESV